I have several groups of friends and acquaintances that don’t really over lap. I find that in two of the groups the focus is extremely different and as a result I find myself drawn to one group far more than the other.
One group is trusting to the point (from my view) of naivete. And I love them for it! They offer to help no matter what. If the person who needs help needs help, it doesn’t matter if they’ve never met except online. They’ll give money or offer knowledge and assistance. They have come through with transportation sent representatives to funerals and weddings. I find their open heartedness overwhelming. I strive to be more like the best of these people.
Another group is mistrustful. They have their world view and love anything that works with that. They dislike anything that isn’t part of it. If someone lives outside of their world view they don’t want to help. Anyone who suggests anything that conflicts with their world view is dismissed. Their mistrust leads to a certain hard heartedness. They think everyone should rely on themselves and a few close friends, forgetting that there are many people who have few close friends or are displaced from family and friends when they are in trouble. They criticize others for the way in which they choose to help these people. Their denial of anything outside their world view suggests that they act from fear.
I am sad about this group. They have offered some interesting conversations, but I think I need to move away from this group. I had the opportunity to interact in person with them at one time and I came home and got sick.
With the other group I come home wondering how I can be a better person.
We learn that we can act from love or from fear. I have had this wonderful opportunity to see first hand the different roads these actions lead us to. I know that the people in the second group do care. They have the full capacity for kindness, as I see them acting on it with genuine concern for those in their group. However, fear prevents them from moving beyond their small group. I see it as very sad that they are limiting themselves. They make me look at myself and wonder how I am limiting myself when I get to afraid to act from love. Maybe if I can hang out with the other group long enough, I too will give first and ask questions later.